“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”  ― Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers

As I have been packing up my house for this experiment/journey, I found my copy of The Atlantic with Mr. Rogers on the front of it.  I also found books by Mr. Rogers that clinical psych students have given me over the years because they knew how I admired Mr. Rogers like my hero. To top it off, in my sorting and  packing I found a toy that when you press different buttons you hear Mr. Rogers’ voice saying, “I like you just the way you are.”  Or, “You make each day a special day. You know how, by just your being you.” And, of course, “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood.”  It was a perfect thing to find.  It made me think about how I am going about this journey as an experiment and how that gives me room to just accept everything as it is, including myself.

What if every piece of this journey was sacred, and each step or action or thought was done with such attentiveness and acceptance that the meaning of each step was a whole journey by itself ?



  1. Carol says:

    I love this Ellen. Wherever your journey takes you, I want you to know you have made a positive impact on my life and the lives of so many. Thank you for being wonderful YOU. XOXO Carol Lettko

    1. E. Stern says:

      Thanks so much Carol, I am so glad to hear this.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Indeed, every little step is, in and of itself, the next great step of our lives.

    1. E. Stern says:


  3. betseyc says:

    Your last paragraph is one of the most beautiful and succinct philosophies of living I’ve ever come across.

    Did you ever see the part of my website that explains how I launched myself out of my old life? It’s here: http://thesouloftheearth.com/the-journey/. The details were different, but the underlying push out, beyond, away from the details we had structured our lives with is so similar.

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